HOW I TAUGHT MY SON HOW TO SWIM

Before I go in to this, first, evaluate the temperament of your child or the child you will teach.
IF he or she is very timid , then choose a different approach.
My son has never been afraid of anything EXCEPT a pair of geese. and that was it. He was 4 or 5 then.
Anyways, what happened was that we had gone back into Mexico and for some dumb reason they would not let us back out for a while. So that forced me to have to leave him and his Mother there while I came and worked here for a time. ( Things we do for our families needs ). Anyways, while I was here I had purchased a nice Chevy Pickup.  Things were going good for a time, but then I suddenly started having dreams of my son and I going hunting for ducks down by the river.
In my dream I had shot a duck and it fell down on the bank by the river and my son ran down to the edge of the river to gather the duck . The river was always shallow but for some reason in my dream it became deep and in my dream he tripped and fell in. I ran down and jumped in and I could see him sinking with his little hand stretched out with fear in his eyes as he was sinking out of sight away from me. I was swimming as hard as I could trying to reach him but it was like swimming in honey. VERY THICK. He disappeared from out of sight and I lost him. I would wake up at that time with my chest hurting from the fear and desperation and the grief over the loss of my son and the total frustration and anger at being totally helpless to save him. THIS DREAM I HAD MORE THAN ONCE. it happened several times. I made up my mind to go back into Mexico to teach him how to swim. REASON ????  We had a river on one side of our house and a large canal on the other. The problem was, that there was a lot of water in that canal and there was two telephone post laid across and bound together for a bridge and that it got real slippery when it got wet . it was wet all the time from the kids swimming and jumping off of it into the canal. WORSE YET,,, it was the shortest route to the store which I found out that they ( my wife's family ) would send my son to buy cokes and things for them. If he had fallen, he would have drowned. SO I SOLD MY TRUCK and bought a small car and used the rest to go into Mexico. When I got there and as soon as I got there I asked my son if he wanted to go swimming and of course he said yes. We got ready and went to the canal. Standing on the posts I asked my son,, Son ! What would you do if you fell in ? He said, I'd swim !
I said , Swim then and nudged him off of the posts and into the water and then immediately jump to the other side of him because the current would carry him downstream and out of my reach if I waited. It was only up to my chest in depth but to him it was over his head. He went down , then came up , went down then came up went down once more then came up. I grabbed him and asked him, SON ! what would you do if you fell in ? He said, I'd swim. I said once more, SWIM THEN and let him go. He went down and came up then he went down once more, then came up. I grabbed him again and asked, SON ! what would you do if you fell in ? And he said, I WOULD DROWN. I said, NOW I WILL TEACH YOU HOW TO SWIM.... Before the day was over he was swimming very well. You see , When he thought he could do something, he had no fear or respect for the situation. but once he realized that he could not, he gained a respect for the situation and paid close attention to me and learned fast. I NEVER HAD ANOTHER DREAM ON THAT MATTER..
KNOW YOUR CHILD, LOVE YOUR CHILD,TEACH YOUR CHILD. BE HIS PARENT, BUT ABOVE ALL SHOW HIM OR HER THAT YOU ARE THEIR FRIEND AS WELL.

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A CHOICE IN THE MAKING ON GUN LAWS

MY SON AND I WERE TALKING ON THE SUBJECT OF GUN CONTROL LAWS AND WHAT CAN COME ABOUT HAVING OUR GUNS TAKEN AWAY. WE DECIDED THAT IF POSSIBLE ( THAT IS, IF WE CAN COME UP WITH THE FUNDS ) WE ARE GOING TO MAKE A FILM WHERE , THE GUNS HAVE BEEN OUTLAWED. SCENARIO ........
A CONGRESSMAN AND HIS FAMILY, WHICH CONSISTS OF WIFE, TWO GIRLS, ONE BOY AND MAID. THEY ARE LIVING IN THEIR UPTOWN PLUSH HOME.WHEN A MAN COMES INTO THEIR HOME CARRYING AN ( OUTLAWED ) GUN AND AFTER SUBDUING THE CONGRESS MAN , RAPES HIS DAUGHTERS, HIS WIFE AND MAID. THEN THE GUNMAN TORTURES AND KILLS THE CONGRESS MAN'S SON. THEN HE THANKS THE CONGRESS MAN FOR HIS VOTE ON MAKING IT EASIER TO DO THIS BY VOTING FOR OUTLAWING GUNS. NOW I WONDER IF HE WOULD VOTE FOR OUTLAWING GUNS AFTER GOING THROUGH THAT?

YES, GUNS ARE DANGEROUS AND THEIR PURPOSE IS TO KILL. BUT FOR ALL INTENTS AND PURPOSES IT IS TO PROTECT YOU AT THE SAME TIME. IT IS BETTER TO HAVE AND NOT NEED, THAN TO NEED AND NOT HAVE.
AS A THIEF OR MURDER, WOULD YOU HAVE A FEAR OR WORRY TO GO INTO A HOUSE TO ROB OR KILL KNOWING THAT THE OCCUPANTS  COULD SHOOT YOU AS SOON AS YOU STEPPED IN IF YOU KNEW THEY HAD GUNS ?  HOW ABOUT IF YOU KNEW THERE WERE NO GUNS, WOULD YOU HAVE FEAR THEN ?

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Monday, December 17, 2012

Making A Good First Impression

People are going to judge you on how you look. Whether we like it or not, appearance matters (find out why in my other post Why Appearance Matters). For things such as job interviews or dates this is especially true. You are going to need to make a great first impression and if you don’t, chances are high that there won’t be a second meeting. This is why it’s important that you look your best. Follow the tips below to learn how to make a great first impression. None of the steps below are hard to do so they should be a part of your regular morning routine so you look your best every day.

Shower Every Day

The first thing you do every morning should be to take a shower. Not only will it get rid of the sweat and odors you built up over night, it’s also going to do a good job at waking you up and getting you ready for the day.

Apply Cologne

If you use scented body washes or soaps then avoid this step. For those who don’t use anything scented, apply cologne as soon as you step out of the shower and dry off. Applying cologne or body spray fresh out of the shower will make the smell last a lot longer. Remember to apply in moderation though. For help with applying cologne check out my post How To Wear Cologne Properly.

Check Your Face

Check your face for any blemishes. Check for nose hairs or crusts in your eyes. A quick look in the mirror is all you need and it’s well worth the effort to improve your appearance.

Groom Your Hair

Before you leave the bathroom, do a hair inspection. Remove those nose hairs and the stray hairs on the back of your neck. Do a quick trim of your facial hair if you need one. None of these things are going to take a lot of time but they all will have a big effect on your overall appearance.

Proper Posture

If you want to make a good first impression, proper posture is essential. Make sure to sit and stand up straight. Good posture not only makes you physically look better, it also gives off a look of confidence.

Take Care Of Your Hands

A handshake can make or break you in the business world. A woman won’t want to hold hands with someone who has longer fingernails than she does. Make sure you keep your fingernails trimmed and apply lotion if you have rough or dry hands. Alternatively if your hands tend to sweat a lot be sure to wash them frequently.

Check Yourself Throughout The Day

Things happen. Throughout the day clothing is likely to move around, hair will fall out of place, cologne might wear off, etc. Be sure to do a regular check in the mirror throughout the day to ensure that you are always looking your best.

Making a good first impression doesn’t have to be difficult. All of the tips listed above can be easily added into anyone’s morning routine. The majority of them can be done before you even get dressed and leave your bathroom so there is no excuse as to why you can’t look your best every day.

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FIRST,  I had JUST started my blogging adventure and had maybe 1 posting,

Secondly, I have NO IDEA as to what is exactly wrong. ALL my info is correct.

then one time they said something on the order of invalid clicks. CLICKS ON WHAT ???

I  DON'T HAVE ADSENSE !!!!

Then they say that once you are turned down, they will never allow you in. THEN WHY DO THEY TELL YOU TO RESUBMIT IN ANOTHER AREA ? 

What kind of business is that ?

IF a person is trying but doesn't understand, you don't kick them to the curb. You try to actually help them get pass the obstacles.  THEY ARE POTENTIAL INCOME TO YOU.

YES, I hope Google reads this and sees that I am pissed and WHERE THEY ARE FAILING.

NOT everyone understands the Internet procedure's but we are trying to learn.

Plus where do I get access to source code's

 

 

Posted on OMG FACTS SITE

There are weird similarities between Abraham Lincoln and John F. Kennedy.

• Abraham Lincoln was elected to Congress in 1846. John F. Kennedy was elected to Congress in 1946.
  
• Abraham Lincoln was elected President in 1860. John F. Kennedy was elected President in 1960.
  
• Both were shot in the back of the head in the presence of their wives.
  
• Both wives lost their children while living in the White House.
  
• Both Presidents were shot on a Friday.
  
• Lincoln's secretary was named Kennedy.
  
• Both were succeeded by Southerners named Johnson.
  
• Andrew Johnson, who succeeded Lincoln, was born in 1808. Lyndon Johnson, who succeeded Kennedy, was born in 1908.
  
• Lincoln was shot in the Ford Theatre. Kennedy was shot in a Lincoln, made by Ford.
  
• Lincoln was shot in a theater and his assassin ran and hid in a warehouse. Kennedy was shot from a warehouse and his assassin ran
  and hid in a theater.
  
• Booth and Oswald were assassinated before their trials.

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ON A PERSONAL NOTE

I would like to ask all readers of my blogs to do me a favor. Please comment or push the like or dislike buttons after reading, it is the only way I can gage what my readers are interested in. Thanks for reading and Happy Holidays.

DANGIT ,,,, JUST WHEN I THOUGHT IT WAS OVER

For some time now we have been hearing that the Mayans were the true prophets and that the world was coming to an end, but it didn't happen. Personally I didn't worry about that at all. BUT TODAY, just when I thought all of this had come to an end, GUESS WHAT,  My mother tells me the Chinese say that it is the 30th of this month that the world will come to an end. WELLLLL I say, the only thing I can think of , is that the Mayan Chinese interpreter wasn't very good at his translation. OR that he was running out of space on his round rock and wasn't about to start over. Post your thoughts on my comment section of your take on this. ( if my comment section works ) I think it does.

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE

I know that this is Christmas eve, but I want to wish each and EVERYONE a MERRY CHRISTMAS.
I hope that this year has been good to you and that next year will be even better, at least the world didn't come to an end for us on the 21st so that's a plus. Have fun and I'll BLOG YOU LATER.

The National Debt

There is a question that I would like to ask.  If the people in the White House that are of our quote unquote "  LEADERS " , If they would give up a third of their yearly income, how close to paying off the NATIONAL DEBT would we be. ESPECIALLY beginning with the President and all the way down. Here's what I have found that the President makes a year.
Traditionally, the President is the highest-paid public employee. President Obama currently earns $400,000 per year, along with a $150,000 expense account, a $100,000 nontaxable travel account and $19,000 for entertainment. The most recent raise in salary was approved by Congress and President Bill Clinton in 1999 and went into effect in 2001; prior to the change, the President earned $200,000, plus expense accounts.
Now add to that all of those who are below him and it becomes massive the cost for a group of paid screw ups.
Now if I can make it on my $40.000 ------ $65.000 IF I'M LUCKY to have a job.
THEN WHY DO THEY NEED SO MUCH MONEY AND WHAT IN THE HELL CAN THEY SPEND THAT MUCH MONEY ON.
Let's begin reducing our NATIONAL DEBT by reducing their income as they have done to us, and putting it towards the debt they are so willing to yell about. THEY'RE the leaders, THEN LEAD BY EXAMPLE.

DEFINING THE WORDS - DEFENSELESS AND CONTROL

                                                       GUN CONTROL

 

SORRY THIS IS LONG BUT IS WORTH LOOKING AT

 

DICTIONARY

defenseless

Definition

de·fense·less

[ di fénssləss ]

ADJECTIVE 

1. 

unprotected: lacking any form of protection and therefore vulnerable

PLURAL NOUN 

1. 

unprotected people: people who are unable to defend themselves and their interests

"working as a shield for the defenseless"

___________________________________________________________________________________

 

PLEASE NOTE THE WORD VULNERABLE IN THE UPPER ADJECTIVE

WHICH OF THE WORDS DO YOU EXPECT THE GOVERNMENT TO USE BELOW

___________________________________________________________________________________

 

 

CONTROL,

con·trol

/kənˈtroʊl/ Show Spelled [kuh n-trohl] Show IPA verb, con·trolled, con·trol·ling, noun.

verb (used with object)

1.

to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate; command.

2.

to hold in check; curb: to control a horse; to control one's emotions.

3.

to test or verify (a scientific experiment) by a parallel experiment or other standard of comparison.

4.

( to eliminate ) or prevent the flourishing or spread of: to control a forest fire.

5.

Obsolete . to check or regulate (transactions), originally by means of a duplicate register

 

 

 

 

TO MY LADY

THIS IS MY FAVORITE

WRITTEN FOR THE HUFFINGTON POST

First, I would like to send my condolences to the family's who have lost their loved ones. I am very sorry. To the congress that are debating on taking our guns away, I would like to ask, HOW would that solve anything? The gun that lays there can do nothing of it's own, just like the knife that lays there can do nothing of it's own , just like the baseball bat that lays there can do nothing on it's own , just like a sharpened pen or pencil that lays there can do nothing on it's own and so forth and so on. The power IS NOT in the object, but in who's hands it lies. Should we take away and outlaw everything that can be used as an weapon ? Your car, etc.etc.. EVERYTHING can be used to kill with. The real danger we face, are not in the weapons. The threat of injustice lies in the minds of the people who handle ANY TYPE OF OBJECT, to the detriment of others. Also, it is evident that the government officials ( not all ) use these tragedy's to forward their agendas to their gain. Outlaw knives, baseball bats, pots and pans,, Hell, outlaw kids. It makes about as much sense. Be assured that WHEN you take away the guns , YOU WILL ONLY TAKE THEM AWAY FROM THE LAW ABIDING CITIZENS. The people who ARE doing the killings WILL STILL HAVE THEIRS and you will be defenseless.

VISITS IN RIFLE COLORADO

WELL !!!!! IF I CAN'T GO SEE THEM, THEN MAYBE THEY'LL COME SEE ME.
THIS WAS TAKEN IN RIFLE COLORADO.

HUNTERS DREAM, HUNTERS NIGHTMARE

THIS IS A BEAUTIFUL PLACE TO HUNT EXCEPT IT IS PRIVATE LAND
AND THERE ARE LOTS OF ELK ON THIS LAND.
BUT AS USUAL, THE RICH PEOPLE THAT OWNS THE LAND, HAS IT ALL SHUT DOWN TO HUNTERS. THE RICH SCREW THE POOR ONCE AGAIN. BUT AGAIN, I UNDERSTAND THEIR REASONS TO. HUNTERS LEAVE THEIR TRASH , BREAK FENCES, ETC. ETC. ETC..... 

LONG TIME AGO HARLEY'S FOR $ 57.50

This is under an arch of a dug out cellar in Basalt Colorado.
It WAS in better shape a couple of years ago.
Imagine, a Harley for $57.50

BEAUTIFUL

My Brother and I were hunting in an area near Rifle Colorado.
There were aprx. 250 head ,But ALL were on private land.
My bro. caught this one jumping over the fence.
He downloaded it on the computer and I copied it off the computer with my phone. 

A TOMBSTONE OF LOVE

IF TEARS COULD BUILD A STAIRWAY
AND MEMORIES A LANE,
I'D WALK RIGHT UP TO HEAVEN,
AND BRING YOU HOME AGAIN.

 I do not know to whom this was written,
 but it is beautiful.
 I took the picture in Rifle Colorado

MY THOUGHTS ON PERCEPTION

Ever wonder why it is that in some peoples eyes you are a genius, and in others, you are a moron ?
I believe that THAT stems from the TEMPLATE they are comparing you to, which is of themselves.
Imagine you are talking to two people at the same time and speaking to both on the same subject , One of those people thinks that you are a genius while the other thinks you are a moron. The question is, how can you be both at the same time? The answer for me then, is that they each will base your intelligence from the template of perception of themselves. If you are a genius in the mind of someone, then they will hold you in great esteem and you can do no wrong. ON THE OTHER HAND, if you are a moron in the mind of a person, then everything you do will always be wrong no matter what you do. Don't try to impress someone with your intelligence because it's off their intelligence they are comparing it to in the first place. P.S. This is just my theory, it doesn't mean I'm right. It's just my perception on the matter. Ted

Tombstone Reading

IT said,,, As you go a passing by, as you are now so once was I, as I am now you soon shall be, so prepare for death and follow me.

I saw a newspaper clipping some years later in Dallas Texas with a picture of that very same tombstone, but there was a note attached to the tombstone that read,,,,, To follow you I'll not consent, until I know which way you went.

Free Silver for Real

I saw this on youtube and tried it out and found out that it really works.
Go to your bank and if you can, spend $500.00 for a box of $.50 cent pieces. Take them home and open each roll. pull out the silver if there are any in the roll. replace the ones you took out with ones that are the standard kind. After checking all of the rolls and following theses steps , Take the box to a different bank and exchange it back into paper money. check this out on youtube. it's cool

Loving and Romancing your Lady

I wanted to do something out of the ordinary and something that most men haven't done. I bought a very pretty bracelet for my lady, Then I went to the store and bought her favorite box of cereal. Then with a sharp knife I cut the glue between the tabs of the bottom of the box so that I could pull the package out. Then I cut a slice into the side of the bag of cereal and put the wrapped box with the bracelet inside with the cereal. Then I sealed the bag with a piece of tape and slid the bag back into the box. I then reglued the tabs back to the way the originally were. Then I gift wrapped the box and added a card that said. NOT EVERYTHING THAT YOU SEE IS WHAT IT SEEMS. Then I gave it to her.

CHECK THIS OUT

American Heritage Dictionary:

mul·ti·ply¹

Top

(mŭl'tə-plī')

v., -plied, -ply·ing, -plies.

v.tr.

1. To increase the amount, number, or degree of.
2. Mathematics. To perform multiplication on.

v.intr.

1. To grow in amount, number, or degree. See synonyms at increase.
2. To breed or propagate.
3. Mathematics. To perform multiplication.

[Middle English multiplien, from Old French multiplier, from Latin multiplicāre, from multiplex, multiplex. See multiplex.]

mul·ti·ply² (mŭl'tə-plē')
adv.
In many or multiple ways.                         

                                                     MULTIPLY

THE DEFINITION ABOVE IS SO THAT YOU CAN SEE THAT IT MEANS TO INCREASE.
NOW THE SYMBOL OF MULTIPLY IS THE ( X )
THE SYMBOL IS THE ORDER OF ACTION THAT IS TO BE TAKEN.
THEREFORE IF THE SYMBOL X IS PLACED, THEN IT MEANS TO INCREASE.
IF THE SYMBOL -- IS PLACED , THEN IT IS THE ORDER TO SUBTRACT OR DECREASE ETC, ETC,
REMEMBERING TO FOLLOW THE GIVEN ORDER ACCORDING TO THE SYMBOL, THEN TELL ME WHAT IS THE ANSWER TO THIS >>>>>       1X1=

GUN LAW CATASTROPHE

             First, I would like to send my condolences to the family's who have lost their loved ones. I am very sorry. To the congress that are debating on taking our guns away, I would like to ask, HOW would that solve anything? The gun that lays there can do nothing of it's own, just like the knife that lays there can do nothing of it's own , just like the baseball bat that lays there can do nothing on it's own , just like a sharpened pen or pencil that lays there can do nothing on it's own and so forth and so on. The power IS NOT in the object, but in who's hands it lies. Should we take away and outlaw everything that can be used as an weapon ? Your car, etc. etc..  EVERYTHING can be used to kill with. The real danger we face, are not in the weapons. The threat of injustice lies in the minds of the people who handle ANY TYPE OF OBJECT, to the detriment of others. Also, it is evident that the government officials ( not all ) use these tragedy's to forward their agendas to their gain. Outlaw knives, baseball bats, pots and pans,, Hell, outlaw kids. It makes about as much sense. Be assured that WHEN you take away the guns , YOU WILL ONLY TAKE THEM AWAY FROM THE LAW ABIDING CITIZENS. The people who ARE doing the killings WILL STILL HAVE THEIRS and you will be defenseless. www.facebook.com

HOMEMADE HARPOON FROM MEXICO

Ever had the desire to go skin diving? That is what I did for the better part of my youth in Mexico.
I have very good friends there and here. I remember one day going to my friends house and he asked me if I wanted a harpoon to fish with. Of coarse I said yes so we started gathering the components to build it with. These are the components needed.

  1. One 2"x4"x 2'
  2. One bucket handle.
  3. One car antenna ( the old style )
  4. One 1/8 x 1"x 8" flat stock iron bar.
  5. A handful of rubber bands.
  6. A car tire inner tube ( old style )
  7. One motor cycle spoke.
  8. One eye bolt and two nuts.
  9. A file.
10. A hammer.
11. A hack saw.
12. An old machete.
13. A hand drill
14. 6' of nylon string

The first thing we done was to cut the board into an pistol shaped design.
Then we drilled a hole for the eye bolt.
We then installed the eye bolt which was longer than the width of the board.
We tapered one end of the flat stock into the shape of a very dull knife edge then bent the flat stock into a gradual S shape with the lower end of the S shape a little less curved and the upper part more pronounced.
Then we cut the inner tube into long strips of rubber aprx. 1/4" wide.
With those, we strapped the flat stock to the handle part of the board.
We cut the car antenna to aprx. 6" long and strapped it to the top and front of the board.
We cut strips of inner tube to aprx. 1" wide and 12" long then folded it in half and with the rubber bands strapped it to the eye bolt on both sides of the board.
We then took the motor cycle spoke and bent it into the omega shape and hooked it onto the folded end of the rubber inner tube on each side of the board and wrapped it with more rubber bands.
Then we began to work on the bucket handle, first we straightened it, then we cut a notch like that of an arrow on the end, then we notched the first notched on the side close to the end and after that aprx. 1" apart a few more notches , that way the omega bar would set into the end notch and the flat stock edge would set into the notches on the side of the bar ( bucket handle ).
Then we took the bar and with the machete and hammer and cut an edge on both sides of the front end of the bar then forced them outward, then we filed down the front into point. then about 4" back from the front we with the file cut a grove for to tie the nylon string onto the bar and the other end we tied it to the eye bolt and waa laa , we were done.  without the string that thing would shoot the harpoon bar aprx. 35' - 45'.  Boy , did we catch a lot of fish.
The bad part about it is that now I have no patience with fishing poles and line.
Give me a harpoon any day. EXCEPT IN WINTER HAHAHA.
Anyways , hope you enjoyed this moment of time.




  

I think

Do you remember the cartoon show where a chameleon says, I think my blender is broken ?
WELLLLL, I think my blogger is broken HaHaHA. I asked for help on my last blog and NO ONE has responded. Everyone cannot be that cold hearted so it HAS to my blogger is broken. OH WELL....

Good Morning Ladies and Gents.

Just a few lines to see if anyone will give some advice.
First, I want to tell you that I have been trying to get something going on the internet as a business, but I am just a carpenter, truck driver, labor worker type of guy. I have always tried to better myself in different types of work and now I would like to make money online. Most of the areas that I have looked at are scams and unfortunately I've tried a few and lost. My question,,, Does anyone know of a money making site that actually works, and one that you yourself have made money on. if you have it would be greatly appreciated if you would post the info on my site or email me. Thanks fellow bloggers........Your Friend Ted

The relationship with my son.

When I was growing up, I had good parents. My Mother was and still is, always there for me. My dad was not the kind of a man I would consider a very loving dad. He nonetheless did what he could do, the best way he could, but I expected a father to be much more and  he fell short in that department.
However, it was because of the way he was that made me who I am today with my son. Now granted it also requires the son to be of a certain temperament for that to gel so to speak, so definitely all the blame cannot and will not go to my father. But I learned a VERY  IMPORTANT FACT about raising a child. First one must understand that recognition of situations in the family comes first from me. SIGHT AND HEARING AND NEED.  One cannot expect a child to recognize errors and direction if he has not been in this world for very long and it is unjust to expect the adults good judgment  actions from a child. Therefore we must watch body language, The body language will tell you if they understands situations or not by the confused look in their eyes or their apprehension by fidgeting. We must listen because they will tell you indirectly how they feel about such things that they are concerned with even if to you it is trivial. But NEED, ( THAT ) is were we fail in as parents because need is a driving agent for an outcome. Need drives everyone to do things that manifest itself in a wide variety of ways, and it is the failure to see the needs of those that cause them to make choices that effect them and everyone else. Think about it. When you are hungry, you eat . Get hungry enough and you will do something drastic to fill the need. When you are lonely, you will set yourself up for a downfall just to be wanted. Even revenge is an inner need that requires satisfaction .
BUT A CHILD, the child is ALL ABOUT NEED. His strongest need is ( in MY opinion ) a friend.
Human nature resents obligation by force and a child is HUMAN and though the things we do are for the good of the child, they only see force. BUT!!!! if you are their friend then they will except the advice given if given as a friend. It was easier for me as a parent because my son IS AND ALWAYS HAS BEEN MY BEST FRIEND. Friends do things for each other that they would not normally do otherwise. And I have ALWAYS told my son that he is my best friend and that no one can take his place BUT that I am also his father and that a father must correct his child when no other options can be found. Most importantly!!! Speak to them as they are your equal, FOR THEY ARE. They are the better part of you but your equal and they WILL see that. Your words are the creators of the future and they are your future. MY DAD use to grab a belt, switch  or anything he could find that wouldn't actually kill us and then beat us until he felt vindicated. The way I chose to do things was FIRST make my son my best friend. Secondly, if it came down to chastisement, the way I did it went like this. I would tell him not to do something and then explain WHY I didn't want him to do it and then reaffirmed that it was because he is my best friend and that I loved him and didn't want him to get hurt. I would ask him if he understood what the reasoning for my stopping him and he would say yes or no. We would work through the whys until he had no question about it because, questions always need answers either by the parent explaining or they will get their answers on their own. And that can be a bad thing sometimes. If he did it again , I would go through the whole process again BUT with a promise at the end. That should he do it again, then as his Father I would have to punish him. HERE IT IS VERY IMPORTANT. IF YOU PROMISE ANYTHING TO YOUR CHILDREN, KEEP IT!!!
When he did it again THAT'S when I would chastise him, but in no way as my Father did to me. I would give him a swat with the belt, one for each time I told him not to do it. It NEVER went pass three. BEFORE I would carry out the punishment I would go through the whole process again only now I had to tell him that I had to keep my promise to him and chastise him for his actions because I had given my word and I had to keep it, but MOST IMPORTANTLY was that I loved him.
He grew up with this type of teachings and he never gave me any problems as I did to my Father.
Teachers begged me not to leave and take him, He graduated early and had an  President of the United States letter of invitation that certain students get to go to meet the President and others. He is an artist, has written a script or to and has everyone's affection . The sad part for him is that the only girl he has ever loved could not see his value. And though that to me is truly an insult, His words to me were, You can't make someone love you dad. How true I think but how sad that she would throw away a chance to know a real man such as he, for he is a far better man than I could EVER be.  Love your children but make them your best friends as a Parent. It is easier to be a Parent when you are the best of friends.           ...................Ted